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young person who has a parent who has alcoholism as to how to navigate that. Because I even get messages a lot from people that are like , hey, my dad is struggling or this, what do I do? I don't know what to do here. Do you have any thoughts on that? And it's not like you're a specialist. Yeah, I'm not a specialist. I mean, here's what I try to do. I mean, take this for what it's worth. But number one is you got to if you're a kid in your environment where there's a lot of addiction, you got to make sure that you're taken care of. Right. Like don't don't get yourself in such a situation where it 's not just your parent that is struggling, but it becomes you that's struggling, too. Right. Because you can't help them out. You can't help them out unless you're able to take care of yourself first. Right. Right. That's that's number one. I think number two is as hard as it is, man. And shit, I know this very well because there were times when I had some very angry moments with my mom. Don't get resentful and try to keep your heart as open as possible. Right. You got to compartmentalize a little bit. Right. There's yeah, there's the addict version. But then there's the version that, you know, that read you a book when you were a kid. There's a version that took you to, you know, your favorite movie or try to hold on to the memories that are completely divorced from the addiction. Because I think if you allow yourself to become totally resentful, then it doesn't just affect them. It starts to affect you, too. Right. Don't don't allow your parents addiction to become something that destroys your life, too. In other words, as you've got to kind of you've got to kind of keep your soul intact here. I mean, I just practically go to those in a meetings and I learned more about mom and her addiction going to those in a meetings. And I didn't always, you know, it's not like it was like some eureka moment. Oh, there's you know, I'm not pissed off at you anymore. Right. But you at least understand it a little bit more and you gain some appreciation for what's going on in their life because that's a that's a big part of it. Yeah. And you also think about in a meetings is just again, it is human nature and all of its splendor, its virtue and its vice, man. Oh, yes. It's just real life. The last one I went to.